How My Daughters See Me

April 28, 2009 – 10:44 pm

The last couple of weeks have been very focusing for me. The week before I started homeschooling, I sat down to figure out a schedule and had a dreadful time doing it. Finally it all came together but only after I sat down and did some uber-prioritizing. Funny thing: when you figure out which things you care about the most and then focus on those things, you’re a lot happier! Isn’t that brilliant? And it’s taken me a mere thirty-three years to realize that.

It’s not like I’ve been relaxing on the beach and that’s why I’m happy. In fact, I’ve been working my butt off even more than I was before (which I didn’t really think was possible because I’m generally prone to massive overworking myself than underworking); but it’s that satisfying kind of work that you don’t mind doing because you know you’re good at it, you’re doing the job you were born to do, and the people you work for love you.

Two small cases in point:

1. The other day the older three or four kids and I were making cookies to share with the company that was coming over later that evening (lest you think we would make a whole four dozen cookies and eat them all ourselves… hehe.. moving right along..). Trinity and Anika started discussing my hair and wanted to know why it has all those colors in it. Huh? My hair is a really dark brown and fairly homogenously so. What colors? Oh you know Mom, the shiny silver hairs. Why are those there?

When I told them they were there because I was getting old, they all laughed like that was the most ridiculous idea they had ever heard. Then they told me that the silver ones were beautiful and they wished they could have some. Huh. My computer never tells me it thinks my gray hair is beautiful (it does give me gray hair).

To tell the truth, between my Dad telling me all through my childhood that he couldn’t wait to have gray hair because it is a “crown of splendor, attained by a righteous life” (Pro 16:31) and my daughters telling me how pretty it is and why can’t they have it, having gray hair doesn’t really bother me. When I get older, I’m secretly planning to have long dark hair streaked with gray that eventually turns white like the Italians do instead of lopping it all off into short hair like Americans. It’s so much more Old World beauty. Hmmm, I may have put too much thought into this already.

2. This afternoon I was trying to put together a meal plan for the rest of the term so I don’t have to think about it for another five weeks when Kyra bonked herself again and ended up on my lap. She’s in the middle of a growth spurt and seems constantly surprised to find her arms and legs sticking out further than they used to. She’s sort of a giant bruise at the moment. Anyway, she noticed the mole on my neck and wanted to know what it was. After I explained that, she decided that she wanted one too. After I showed her that she did, in fact, have a mole on the back side of her very own knee, she seemed much happier and bounced off to go play.

This has been very gratifying for me. The kids don’t care that I have gray hairs popping up or a wierd mole on my neck. In fact, they seem to see these as desirable things, which I’m fairly sure is because they are attached to someone that they love. So, lucky me! Yes, there are frustrations. Henry has teeth coming in and cries all day. I now get up at six and don’t stop zooming until I sit down to scarf down some lunch at 1:30.

At that point, the kids all see me sitting down and decide that means that the ears are open for business so they can tell me their weird dreams from last night (Georgie: me & Trinity were chased by a gorilla), long-winded stories about Bionicle wars that I hope to never care about, a recap of an entire SpongeBob episode so I would get the context of the three second part they thought was really funny. Hmmm, actually those were all Georgie. Today I finally explained to him what time I got up, what I had been doing all day (most of it was teaching the kids), and that now I was going to sit down to lunch where I would like to sit in peace and read the newspaper so please go play somewhere else. That seemed to help considerably.

Overall though, I just feel more content and relaxed. My smile is back. I missed it.

Rachel


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Restaurant Dinner for Eight, $20.59

April 25, 2009 – 8:00 pm

Ha! I love a deal. Tonight we decided to take the kids to their favorite restaurant, HomeTown Buffet, since we’ve been all broke and haven’t taken them out in ages. But you know, I don’t like going out and paying full price, so naturally I started scoping around for coupons.

There was one in my wallet from HTB that I pulled from the paper a couple weeks ago. It was Get Two Free Kids Meals with One Adult Meal and today was the last day before it expired.

Thinking maybe there was another one of those online somewhere, I started surfing around and found a site saying that if you sign up for HTB’s mailing list, they’ll send you a Buy One Get One Free Adult Meal coupon. Hmmm, didn’t I sign up for that a while ago and never use the coupon? A quick search through my inbox said, “yes.” One problem: coupon expired in February. Oh well, it never hurts to put on your pathetic face and ask if they’ll make an exception (dragging six kids along with you helps too). I stashed the printout in my pocket and off we went.

When we got there, we must have shown up right in the lull between big mobs of people because we walked right in. The cashier started counting everyone and I flashed my first coupon at her. She asked if I only had one (!!), and I told her that I also had a really old one if they could maybe take that. She said she didn’t think so since it was from February, but she’d go ask the manager since we had eight people in our party. He sweetly decided to let us take it, and we ended up with George, Georgie, and Trinity being free. That amounts to $23 of our $43.59 bill. Yay for a cheap night out!

Rachel


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The Bionicle Tabernacle and Homeschool, Week 1

April 22, 2009 – 9:52 pm

Our church has the coolest Sunday School classes ever! A month or so ago Georgie came home all excited because he had homework from his Sunday School class (!!). He had two weeks to build a complete tabernacle out of whatever he wanted, so naturally he decided to make his from Bionicles. In case you are having trouble envisioning this, I have pictures. :)

This is the whole covered Tabernacle

And here are the individual pieces:

The Golden Lampstand (left) and Table of Showbread (r) with all the bread, of course.

Sacrifice (l) and Altar of Burnt Offering (r)

Ark of the Covenant

Altar of Incense

High Priest (l) and the Bronze Laver (r)

The whole shebang minus the tent top.

I’m particularly fond of the altar of incense and the High Priest. Georgie seems to have all the pieces of the tabernacle down now, and they seem to be glued to his brain cells pretty well. So great idea, Mr. Nieman (the SS teacher)! And awesome job, Georgie!

In other news, this week I started homeschooling Georgie, Trinity, Anika, and Kyra (well, and sort of Faith). It’s going pretty well! The kids are enthusiastic and have been working hard (a couple of them have even decided to get up early and do their half hour of reading before school starts at 8:30).

We’ve been pretty close to on schedule, and I’m nearly done figuring out all the curriculum for the term. It seemed better to start and finish figuring things out as I go along then to wait until everything’s perfect, which will happen in about never. Today I made the mistake of having the kids each make a set of sea animals flash cards during science. They colored and I glued the pictures onto 3×5 cards.

Math pop quiz: 5 sets (one for each kid) of 17 flash cards, each with an animal glued to the front and facts for that animal glued to the back means Mommy gets to glue how many pieces of paper to index cards? If you guessed 170, you have won the fabulous prize of coming to be my helper next time I have a stupid idea that should be spread over a few days instead of all done at once. At least science was the last class of the day.

Anyway, here’s my cuties on their first day of school:

Today Georgie and Trinity had a blurb in history about the clothing that people wear in the desert, and it was talking about the aba, which is a long bathroby-looking thing that gets worn over your long flowy shirt, and about the head coverings, which I can’t remember the names of (bad teacher!). This seemed like a good excuse to torture my children (not that I really need an excuse, but when the opportunity presents itself…):

No, actually they were quite pleased with themselves. Georgie took the stuff off his head but left his bathrobe on until I made him remove it to go to choir practice at 7:00.

This one just made me laugh because it’s amazing how expressive Trinity can be with just her eyeballs.

Okay, well that’s it for today. Is the weekend here yet?

Rachel


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Resurrection Term ‘09

April 16, 2009 – 11:51 am

Okay, so I am officially starting homeschool with the kiddos this coming Monday (4/20/09). Yikes! Actually, I’m feeling pretty ok about it. Got the schedule all sorted out. See?

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What, you can’t read that? Well, click on it and it will take you to the bigger version. For term study this time we are doing a unit on sea life. That way when we go to Family Camp at the end of the term, we can have an excuse to go to the excellent Oregon Coast Aquarium (like we need an excuse).

Even better, the aquarium has a whole bunch of downloadable curriculum for homeschoolers, which will make organizing easy for me (big plus). Yay! So now I’m all excited.

I went through what I have and need yesterday and am hoping to make it out to Exodus Books tomorrow or Saturday to finish picking up class materials. I think I need to clean off one more bookshelf today so I can finish setting up the classroom and then I’ll be ready-ish. So yep, feeling pretty good! :)

Oh, were you wondering what the heck Resurrection Term is? We are running our school year according to the church calendar and days of creation. So instead of having three or four terms of school and then the summer off, we are having seven terms that are seven weeks each.

The first week of each term the kids have off of school as a reflection of Sabbath rest the first day of each week. The school year starts mid-November for Advent Term, and that entire term of seven weeks is off of school (first term of seven, also reflecting Sabbath rest on the first day of the seven day week).

There are several advantages to doing it this way.

  1. Your children’s brains don’t leak out their ears over a long summer holiday.
  2. The longest break comes around Christmas when everyone is swamped and wants to do family stuff anyway.
  3. If you don’t like the schedule or get behind on something, your term is only six weeks of actual school time so it’s not going to screw the kids up too much to just wait and revise next term.
  4. For summer, we do a bit lighter load and the schedule is flexible enough to allow for that.

If you’ve been calculating in your head as I’ve been explaining, you’ll notice that seven terms of seven weeks makes 49 weeks but there are 52 weeks in the year. That leaves three floating weeks to take elsewhere as vacation.

We’re taking two in June, before and after Family Camp which is the start of the Apostolic Age Term and then the last one probably in August somewhere during the Church Age Term. No doubt this will come up again in a later post, but if you’d like to do a bit more reading on your own, this idea was developed by my friend Melody at Solis Ortus.

Oh! Also, I’ve decided not to bore all of you with our day in, day out homeschooling details so I have started a dedicated blog for that in order to better bore only those of you who wish to be bored. It’s at HomeschoolSandbox.com. My friend Lana who is currently homeschooling her two school-aged kids has joined that blog as an editor, so she’ll be posting her homeschooling life on here as well. I’m excited! Should be fun.Welcome, Lana! This should be fun. :)

Rachel


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Why the Bell Tolls

April 10, 2009 – 8:35 pm

Every year on Good Friday, our church holds a special service that goes through Jesus’ dying words on the cross and reminds us of his death and resurrection. Seven candles are set up and after a reading of each section of what Jesus said, three verses of a very long song (21 verses) are sung, one candle is extinguished, and the lights are dimmed slightly.

The last candle represents Christ, and when it goes out the lights are turned off entirely. The Elders exit the sanctuary, the church bell rings seven times, and a loud earthquake noise is made. Then the Elders return with the last candle relit. We sing O Sacred Head, Now Wounded and then everyone leaves in silence, reflecting on the work of our Savior.

Usually we don’t make it to this service, but today I decided to take the older four children while George stayed home and watched the two little ones. Well, Georgie didn’t want to go. He wanted to stay home with Daddy and so gave me a bunch of grief, to which he received the reply, “Too bad; you’re going.”

By the time the service was completed, his reaction was somewhat different. “Wow!” was his remark upon leaving the sanctuary. Hehe. Mommy: 1; Georgie: 0. By the time we pulled in the driveway he had reflected a bit more. “The effect of the bell and earthquake was amazing!” he said. “Before the earthquake I was thinking of everything except for Jesus, and by the time it was done I couldn’t think of anything else.”

And now we know why God created art.


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Hair by Kyra

April 9, 2009 – 8:02 am

Ever wondered what happens when your four year old does your hair? When I was pregnant with Henry last year I spent several months on the couch trying really hard not to vomit, and Kyra decided that good Mommy and Kyra time would involve her sitting on the arm of the couch right by my head and brushing my hair for hours. This was actually quite relaxing, so we both enjoyed it(after I gave my hair a quick brushing beforehand to diminish the “ow” factor of a young hair stylist).

Since Henry was born a year ago, though, I’ve been more in zoom mode and less in lie on the couch mode so Kyra’s hairdoing opportunities have lessened considerably. The other day she asked if she could do my hair, and I had some computer stuff to do so I just laid on the couch with my laptop and let her play all she wanted. Soon she was heading my way with armfuls of hair clippies. Hey, if two clippies are pretty, all the clippies must be ever so much more lovely! And here is my resulting ‘do:

This picture doesn’t get the back which is completely covered in clippes as well. And how many clips, bobby pins, etc. do you think were in my hair? Oh, just fifty-nine. Took me fifteen minutes to take them all out!

Rachel


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Pardon Me While I Build A Cathedral

March 31, 2009 – 4:14 pm

It is frustrating, you know. Like many careers that leave employees frustrated, Mothering involves many mindless jobs that repeat themselves day after day only to be undone and redone again the next day. Dishes, which we go through three dishwashers full of per day at our house, leap to mind. Laundry, floor sweeping, vacuuming, and basically all cleaning jobs are high on the list.

With small children, diapering is a big monotony particularly when the child you diaper doesn’t enjoy that activity and takes every opportunity to cry at you every time you plop him down on the bed for a change. This has been Henry’s reaction for 90% the changes I have given him since he was two weeks old. You can add that up yourself if you’re so inclined. Having someone yell at you several times a day for trying to clean the poop off their own butt gets a mite discouraging.

Even more depressing than the actual work itself is the feeling of being useless. I used to have a very sharp, curious mind. Every class I attended, I did well in. In every company with which I was employed, I did very well and was often promoted quickly. I loved getting report cards and performance reviews because someone always saw my hard work and rewarded it with whatever was appropriate.

Motherhood isn’t that way. Many days I feel like my lovely brain that I was so fond of has been spackled over with peanut butter. The manual labor that I do requires no talent or training, which makes me interchangeable with anyone else around who can throw dirty clothes in a washer with equivalent competency. Because this labor is so menial, why would anyone bother complimenting it or even noticing it? Congratulations Mom, you have just swished your toilet for the 1000th time. We are throwing you a ticker tape parade and sending you to Disney World! Somehow you don’t see that in the newspaper too much. This is probably part of why I like website building so much. It gives my mind something to do which keeps it sharp(er) and other people see the finished product and say “wow.”

The other day when I was driving home Dr. Laura came on the radio, and she read an excerpt from a book called The Invisible Woman. I am not going to retell the entire excerpt because you can go read it yourself here, but the very short version is that Wifing (not to be confused with wi-fi) and Mothering is much like Cathedral building.

The great European cathedrals took decades or more to make and many times the craftsmen worked their whole lives knowing they would never see the finished work. Their names aren’t stamped on the building; no one knows who they were. What they saw was the beauty that their work would become. Their joy was the delight in doing hard work unto the Lord and knowing that He sees it and values it even when no one else does either of those.

I like that. Some days when I’m cleaning up the milk spilled on the floor after cleaning up the juice that was spilled eight minutes ago, I have a hard time remembering that my work is important. This is why I’m writing it down. So if any of you ask me what I did this week, instead of getting a dissatisfied look and a “changed diapers” response, I think I’m going to start answering that this week I was Cathedral building. Then you can have the blank look and hopefully I will more readily remember that building little temples for the Holy Spirit is what I’m doing as opposed to, say, neverending janitorial work.

Rachel


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Pictures of the Kids from School

March 9, 2009 – 10:12 pm

Today Amy emailed me these pictures that she took of the kids at school (Zera Hall) over the last few months. They’re so cute!

Apparently the blue frosting was very blue.

Studying India.

The schoolroom.

Anika being her usual charming self.

Trinity loves school.

Georgie loves Dragons (and school). I think he bought the book from the school store.

Thinking hard.

Thinking less hard. This picture cracks me up. Trinity is the queen of goofy faces.

Three of our happy children. Amy printed a copy of this for me and sent it home with the kids. It’s sitting on my desk so I have my children smiling at me all the time. Hmm, I think I need a frame. I love this picture.

Due to financial restrictions, the kids will no longer be attending Zera Hall as of the end of this term (April 10th) and I will be homeschooling them from then on. Amy has been extremely gracious about the whole thing, but this has been a frustrating time for me. The kids have been with Amy for three years now, love school, and have been flourishing there. Taking them out is a great grief to me, and although I am starting to look forward to homeschooling them here, I have very mixed feelings about the whole thing.

The children themselves seem to be reacting fairly well. The girls are excited about not having “the long car ride” home before they can start on their homework (we live seven minutes from school). Georgie is a bit more suspicious of the whole notion, but he pretty much starts that way when you tell him he will be doing anything new or different. I think once we get going, they will probably all miss Mrs. Hayes whom they love very much.

Amy is actively looking for new students now, so if you have daughters in the K-4 age range and are looking for all the benefits of homeschooling without actually having to do the schooling yourself, Zera Hall is the place for you. Amy is a truly wonderful teacher, and you will be delighted as we have been. It has been our great joy and honor, Amy, to have you teach our children. Many thanks.

Rachel


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Kyra’s First Day of School

March 9, 2009 – 3:45 pm

Kyra’s educational voyage began today, and boy was she happy! She’s been asking me to start doing school with her ever since her nap schedule dropped from every day to every other day a few months ago, and as I was browsing through my computer stuff today I discovered a whole stash of old alphabet printables that I had made up ages ago when I got started with the older kids.

After rummaging around downstairs for a binder and printing off all the tracers, Kyra and I put together a school book for her and she sat down next to me in my room and did school while I worked on my computer. She’s four and a half. School at this age is not terribly consuming, and I’m pretty sure I can keep her busy with tracers for a few weeks until I get going with the big kids next month.

We started today with tracers for her name. As soon as she can do that, we’ll move on to the alphabet. Here’s a couple of pictures of my happy new student:

Yes, fancy desk and materials, I know. She seems thoroughly happy to be sitting on my bedroom floor right next to Mommy with the bathroom stool for her desk. So congratulations, Kyra, and welcome to school!

Rachel


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Sick Day

March 4, 2009 – 3:35 pm

Well, this week we are practicing our epidemiology lesson. If, say, a baby boy gets sick and feels so lousy that he wants his Mother to hold and comfort him while he coughs germs all over her face for several days in a row, she will undoubtedly get sick. This was the premise of last week’s lesson. We are now into the lab portion.

Experimentation has shown that said Mother will, indeed, get sick under such circumstances. Unfortunately, baby boy is still sick and has managed to also infect two sisters so now I have me and three children under age five sick. It’s really delightful and is involving much wailing and gnashing of teeth (by me).

On the plus side, my massive website upgrade is nearly done, which makes me indescribably happy. I was hoping to get almost everything wrapped up this week but have been somewhat waylaid by the aforementioned illness, so my timeline is off by a week or so. It’s very depressing since I was looking forward to returning to my native habitat and leaving the confines of my bedroom office where I have been sequestered now for far too long.

Maybe a handsome prince will come kiss me and sweep me away. Oh wait, that already happened. Guess that’s the virus talking. Anyway, hopefully next week will bring good work news and a family returned to health. Guess I should go wipe Henry snot off my sleeve and take a nap.

Prost!

Rachel


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